Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and I just wanted to take a few minutes to encourage the single ladies. This day can really hurt the most for you guys. Everyone is showing off their “perfect” spouses and boyfriends on social media. It seems like everyone’s getting engaged this weekend and you’ve never felt this lonely. Some of you may begin to question whether you are beautiful enough, smart enough, kind enough, approachable enough or just plain old enough.
We want you to know that you are more than enough and you are not alone.
You may say “ you are already married and you look like you are living your “happily ever after”. You can’t relate to my struggle”.
The truth is that even though we appear to have crossed over the Jordan River into the “promised land” we haven’t forgotten where we came from and we certainly didn’t forget the tests, trials and struggles it took to get us to that place. Not to mention the test and trials that come after “ I do” but that’s a whole other ball game. We are all women. We can still emotionally connect with you and we know exactly what you are going through.
We want to embrace you and also prepare you because we do believe that your time for love and marriage is coming.
One of the greatest lessons that I have learned in my single season and which I can now confirm as a wife is that my happiness is a state of mind and it comes from within me. In other words, getting married to my husband is not the source of my joy and happiness. In fact, my joy comes from the Lord and my contentment with who He has created me to be. I am happy because I am confident in who I am flaws and all. If you are unhappy solely because you are not in a relationship or because you haven’t met your Adam unfortunately I have to be honest with you and tell you that you aren’t ready for your Adam and some self evaluation is needed.
The truth is that people can change. EVEN IN MARRIAGE.
The truth is that life happens and times can get rough.
If happiness is solely based upon our circumstances and life events we are in for a roller coaster ride and I’m already feeling the motion sickness.
You can’t place your happiness in the hands of another person. In fact, the best thing that you can do for your Adam is to get to know yourself, grow in self confidence, and work that runway of the world you live in! Own you! Enjoy your life and embark on new experiences! Travel if you can! Form lasting friendships! Learn how to be a good friend! Learn to be intentional. These are all things that will help you in the next season.
Embrace you! Let your light shine so that he can find you in the darkness. Your light can only shine when you embrace the person that God has created you to be. Knowing that you were fearfully and wonderfully made and then accepting the knowledge and revelation that God created something miraculous when he created you. You were uniquely configured to leave a custom footprint in this world. The man that God has for you is going to be attracted to who you already are. You don’t have to dress a certain way or even act a certain way to try to attract his attention. You simply need to be yourself.
You’ve probably heard this all before so there is no need to beat a dead horse. Everything that I have said doesn’t take away the hurt and pain that comes along with the strong desire to love and be loved by the person you want to spend the rest of your life with but take heart ladies. We know what it is like to want something so bad. And honestly there is nothing wrong with wanting that. God created marriage for his people to enjoy. We just want to help you guys keep your sanity while you wait.
Some of you have been praying! He hears you! He hasn’t forgotten about. Please know that Wives Unite is praying for the next generation of wives. We are praying for you and we are here for you.