- We were not fully honest with each other. Because we were both afraid to hurt each other, we left issues un-touched and they ended up festering into emotions that we never thought we’d EVER had toward each other. LESSON: ALWAYS be honest with your friends. Sometimes sugar-coating situations will do more harm than good.
- Our friendship was unhealthy. We placed our friendship in a position that surpassed our families, husbands (sometimes), and even God in some respects. LESSON: Balance is important and your life can only function properly when everything and everyone is in it’s proper place.
- Our expectations of each other were unreasonable yet never communicated. Because we used to put each other first ALL the time, we ended up placing unrealistic expectations on each other that were not only never communicated, but caused us to view one another differently after the expectations weren’t met, which was a large part of why our friendship initially began to crumble.
- Communication can make or break a situation. The issue that initially started the rift between us all took place via text. We expressed SO much and most of it was misconstrued and lost in the oh so popular art of texting. We were [thankfully!] able to reverse it’s effects by having an in person conversation. LESSON: The medium used to communicate is uber important!
It’s been about 4 or so months since the converstion that mended our conversation and things have been SO refreshing since! We have a new outlook on our friendship which makes our relationship more rewarding. There’s less pressure on both of our ends and our friendship is more beneficial than it was before now that it’s in it’s rightful place.
I say ALLL of this to say that friendships can change and most times they will. Whether it be because of life occurrences or, like Kim and I, a specific situation – but if the friendship means enough to you, address the issue, communicate, and be willing to be honest with each other and yourself in order to get the best outcome!
I love you all and wish you many incredible, enriching and purposeful friendships in the new year!