Yesterday I was driving listening to Jazmine Sullivan radio on Pandora and a song came on that I hadn’t heard before. It had a classic R&B vibe and the was talking about being in love and the more I listened to the song, the more I started to think about hubby.
It was crazy to me that within a matter of about 90 seconds, my whole heart because flushed with lovey dovey thoughts toward my husband. I was reminded of the butterflies I would feel toward him when we were dating; longing to live with one another and wanting to spend every minute together…and then we got married. I won’t go as far to say that romance stopped after we said “I do” but listening to this song made me realized that the longer I’ve been married, the less and less I romanticized my husband.
Romanticize: verb – invest with romantic character
Romantic: adjective – characterized by a preoccupation with love or by the idealizing of love or one’s beloved; displaying or expressing love or strong affection.
Why is this? Probably because…
- As a married woman I have less time to daydream about what marriage would be like because I’m actually living it.
- I know my husband’s flaws in a realer way.
- There’s “no need to romanticize” someone who I do every day life with.
While all the reasons I stated above are facts, I’ve realized that my reality is what I make it. I can be married, live life – good and bad – with my husband while knowing every single annoying flaw and still CHOOSE to romanticize him!
I challenge you (and me!) to take some time after reading this post to intentionally think about all the things that initially attracted you to your husband. What makes him sexy? Is it his smile? His triceps? The way he looks at you?
Once you figure that out, put on some smooooooooooth R&B, and get romantic with your boo!! 😉